Having someone other than yourself, clean and do work in and around your house, is like getting married all over again.
You have to trust that person to respect your belongings and the space you live in, even when you’re not around to keep a watchful eye.
We’re talking Domestic Workers, Cleaning staff, Nannies or anyone else you choose to assist with your household duties.
I for one cannot live without my Memory, even though I have a better chance of communicating with my almost 2 year old, than with her. Whatever miscommunication we had that day, I’ll come home to a clean sink a made bed and most importantly…ironed and folded laundry! I might always only get a smile from her, when I try to explain EXACTLY how I want things done, but hey, at least I’m getting a smile. 🙂
But what happens when they decide to start doing things THEIR way?
As if to say: “It’s my job and I know better.”
Being the perfectionist I am, I struggle with this tremendously! As a mother I’ve learnt to overlook a few things when it comes to doing household chores, but moving things around that I have created a specific space for, isn’t one of them.
Sometimes I want to scream…”IT’S MY HOUSE AND YOU’LL DO IT THE WAY I WANT YOU TO!” That’s what my boss expects from me, isn’t it? But that will only get me all worked up and she’ll probably just smile at me, or give me that giggle where she throws my name in the middle “Hehe Steffie hehe.” Like she’s acknowledging the fact that I said something although she has absolutely no clue what it was.
Now I understand that she works for multiple families and that each has their own method of getting things done and that household items might have different places than in our home, but I have found things in some of the weirdest places. Like tweezers (as in for your eyebrows) in the utensil drawer. WHAT?! It’s shiny so let’s put it with the other shiny things?
Also, the destruction of kitchen appliances, and I mean everything from a kettle to a sandwich press. Who knew the non-stick coating in a pan is part of the packaging? “Remove before first use.”
Here are but a few of the challenges I faced over the last few weeks:
- A brand new jacket I bought for a friend’s son was washed and ironed, with the tag still on. Her response: She thought it was Quwin’s.(Keep in mind the size was 9-10yrs, my only son, Quwin is almost 2.)
- Our brand-new sandwich press (used once) had it’s non-stick coating forcefully removed after I specifically said to not use steel wool, only a sponge. Her response: She didn’t know.
- I reordered a few cupboards to ‘what I thought’ would be more practical for our family, Monday evening everything was back the way it used to be. Her response: Hehe Steffie hehe.
- She has a way of hanging curtains so that you only have to look at them for the hooks to start falling off. It always looks as if I tried to ‘drape’ the curtains as a décor effect.
I then started thinking, wouldn’t it be great if you could send your domestic worker for training somewhere? I mean sure, common sense can’t be taught, but perhaps if certain things are explained to them in a way they understand, they’ll be able to do their jobs more sufficiently.
So I jumped to Google and searched for “Training for Domestic Workers” – Guess what, it exists! And I don’t mean hire a trained domestic through a company, which I guess is also great if you’re there to keep an eye. But having the person you already have working for you, someone you already know and trust, trained in the needed skills to complete their daily tasks successfully sounds like a winner to me.
I came across this site http://domesticguardians.co.za, they also do placements, but I skipped right to the training tab. Here they offer training on Cooking & Baking, Childminding & First Aid, Housekeeping & Life Skills AND English Communication course ding ding ding ding!!!
I have found the solution to my frustration!
Their website seems very professional and their prices very reasonable. So guess where Memory will be going for the next few Saturdays? Soon my house will be clean and she’ll be able to tell me exactly what she (hopefully) didn’t destroy that day.
If you own or know of any training companies that specialize in training for domestic workers, please post it in our comments below.